วันพฤหัสบดีที่ 6 พฤษภาคม พ.ศ. 2553
McDonald's "Directions" Commercial (1998)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1LkkKAUP_Yg&hl=en
McDonald's Happy Meal Commercial El Tigre - TheBrownBoys.ws
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JR8xNe8CxNo&hl=en
วันพุธที่ 5 พฤษภาคม พ.ศ. 2553
What Our Lives Are Really About
This year with the holidays, I had a sense of what is important in my life, and what were the stupid things that I was focusing on. I was totally stressed, and I did not know why. I finally figured it out! I am from the midwest. As you probably know, we were hit by a major blizzard for Christmas. The blizzard left people without electricity, without any way of leaving their homes, and for Farmers and Ranchers, no way to get to their livestock. Accidents happened. People were killed as a result of these accidents. Talk about stressful. It is hard to imagine how difficult living can be under these circumstances. It brought back memories of long ago snow storms that I had conveniently forgotten. The blizzard of '49 I was 8 years old.
I can't remember all of the details, but I do remember that all of my family went out to hand scoop through snow drifts to make a trail about a half mile long, so that we could move the cows to a hay stack, so that they would have food. It was necessary that we do that horribly hard work to keep the livestock alive because they did not deserve to go hungry and die. It was just something we had to do and we did it, even though it was physically very difficult and it was really cold. We worked with neighbors that sometimes we really didn't care for, so that with all of our efforts together, we could get to town for badly needed food.(only to discover that the grocery stores were totally out of food, as the supply trucks couldn't get to the stores to deliver supplies to the stores.
We had canned vegetables and meat, but we ran out of floor, salt, coffee and soap. But I don't recall that anybody was depressed or unhappy, because we realized that we were not alone. All of our neighbors were in the same situation. We just hoped that nobody got sick, or was injured, as there was a very slim chance that any body could get in to rescue us. Army planes flew over the blizzard area, and we were told if there was a real emergency, that we were to take coal ( which was the heat source for most of us) and write in big block letters S O S.
And then they would try to drop supplies to us. I remember that we were getting low enough on food supplies that my Mom was ready to cut open our toy bean bags to fix another meal for us, when they finally got our road opened so that we could get into to town for badly needed food. What dawned on me this Christmas was, that we were not concerned about presents or something new for the house.
We all worked together to have the basic necessities of life. We appreciated a meal, we wanted to take care of our animals, we were concerned about our neighbors, we grieved for their misfortunes! We didn't resent that we had to work really hard and in really bad conditions, we were all willing to do whatever it took, to take care of our neighbors, our livestock and our families. Maybe it is time for us to get back to those basics and quit worrying about keeping up with the Jone's and having all of the newest and latest of gadgets.
It is time for us to be grateful for the ability to take care of our families, our friends and our neighbors. It is time for us to appreciate how good it is to have our families, have a meal on the table (even if it is a very basic meal) and maybe we just need to be happy that we are alive and have the capabilities of surviving even the most major crisis! Maybe, we should take the time to reexamine our lives and decide what is really important and what is just stupid wants and wishes!
วันอังคารที่ 4 พฤษภาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Quick Tips For Handling Child Anger - It's About Sharing
One day our toddlers are perfectly happy and it seems that overnight they are suddenly very angry little people who don't want to share anything. Dealing with child anger is often a challenge for most parents. Some think that the behavior is cute while other parents decide that the issue must be addressed immediately. Following a few tips to address the issue of sharing that will teach your child about making choices will help your youngster and give them some solid skills when they become adults.
Sharing is a difficult concept for children. This is especially true when the youngster has not been around other children, siblings, or ever really had a connection with their toys. Usually when a youngster is around two years old, they will begin to identify items as "mine!" This is the time when you will be faced with the challenge of teaching sharing skills. The response of many parents when a child will not share is to say "No!" While it is effective, you are not teaching your child anything, except that somebody bigger than they are can make them do things they don't want to do.
Most children who get this response from parents learn to develop skills to hide their feelings when they are mad. Many adults who do not deal with anger appropriately did not learn the skills to effectively deal with issues when they were toddlers. When they are in a stressful situation, most people will automatically revert to what they learned as young children. If they have grown into large adults, they may bully people when they are in difficult situations, if they are small, they may show passive aggressive tendencies in reaction to stressful situations.
Sharing issues are a great time for parents to teach their children about choices and problem solving. It only takes a moment and a slight change in the use of the "No!" word. Children who don't want to share often start with a swipe at the offender. They don't really want to hurt or hit the other person; they only want to make them leave their toy alone.
Most parents go on high alert when a swipe occurs. They will grab the toy and say, "No hitting!" Hitting had not really occurred to the youngster until it was mentioned, but it will be a good idea for next time. Remember that children are sponges and think very literally. If you make the suggestion that hitting is a response, then next time hitting will be the action that will be taken. Teaching choices will take the same amount of time and have the kind of long term results that will benefit the youngster much better in adulthood.
You don't have to have a discussion, or react in any way, just identify the issue. "You don't want to share." This is not a question - it is an observation. Many parents make the mistake of turning statements into questions. This can be very confusing to a child and opens the door for a response that you don't want.
After you have identified the issue give your youngster a choice, "Do you want to share this toy or that toy." This is also not a question. You are giving your youngster a choice. When you first use this technique, your child may attempt to select a third toy or open toddler dialogue. But, you must stick with the two toys, "this toy or that toy." When your youngster gets used to this technique, they will begin to choose two toys before they begin playing. This is the foundation of problem solving that will help your young adult make decisions about sharing information, skills, and problem solve effectively.
The longer that a parent puts off teaching their child effective problem solving skills and sharing strategies, the more difficulty the child will have as they get older and are required to share more and more parts of their lives. By dealing effectively with child anger and teaching positive skills, you are giving you child great tools for sharing and dealing with situations that require problem solving in later life.